Girls vs Women – The reality of a room filled with thousands of women.

The last time I was in a room filled with that much oestrogen was when I was in Year 12 at an all-girls High School. Fast forward 13 years and the shift from pubescent bitchiness to women inspiring other women was the most refreshing and empowering event. I lived to see the quote “girls compete with each other, women empower each other” come to life.


For a ‘chick’ like me who is naturally an introvert and often talks myself out of things, I did invite my sister and friend; I mean Business Chicks offered me three free tix, I’d be mad not to use them. Once I got over the ridiculous nerves, I walked into the Hall of Industries and was instantly lifted. The vibe of the whole day was positive, uplifting and empowering. Despite having so many females in one room at one event, everyone was happy, there were no judging eyes, there was no one beating their chest. There were women who genuinely wanted to be there to be inspired by those ahead of us.

Of course, when you have a bunch of women together, there are a few different and powerful personalities that strike out and without judgement; this is what I found:

The encouraging chick – She’s spots you and gives you a warm smile as if to say ‘Hey, how good it this event, I’m so glad you made it?!” This woman will sit beside you and make conversation knowing you are the virgin mum (metaphorically obviously), you haven’t been to one of these before but it’s ok because this is her second and she knows how it all works. Dressed in casual clothes but still sass and style, she’ll make small talk about the presenter on stage and share a story with you. She’ll point out the stands that are giving out freebies and tell you where to get the best coffee. You need this chick in your life not
just today but always.

The over-ambitious chick – This woman is a hustler. She is a lady boss in all aspects and will make sure you know it. Dressed as her idol, possibly even over dressed and a clone from hairstyle to heels (but hey, who’s judging). This mum sits on the other side of you either confidently on her own or with her posse, doesn’t say hello but makes it known to you who she works for and how she knows someone who knows the presenter. She’ll tell you she goes to all of these events and will talk through the presenters that may not interest her but will expect silence when her idol comes out on stage. Although intimidating, listen to her every word because one day you’ll need her for who she knows or how well she can plan a birthday party with her eyes closed.

The virgin – The mum who walks in alone or with a friend holding her hand. She is super excited to be at her first event but would never (NEVER) be seen to show it. Eyes wide open, trying to take it all in, this mum wants to talk to people, ask questions and make connections but doesn’t yet have the courage. She’s called to check in on the children and even though she knows they are ok, will hold her phone tightly in case she needs it for a distraction as someone approaches her. The virgin mum walks up to a stand that interests her and surprisingly although has verbal diarrhoea, is able to hold down a conversation with some form of intelligence and starts to feel at ease. I’d love to say we’ve all been the virgin but some are just more confident than others.

Where do I fit in? I’d like to say I’ve got the trait of the encouraging mum but at the event, I was unashamedly the virgin! On a positive note, at the next 9toThrive event, I’ll be the encouraging mum.

I attended the Sydney event on Saturday and I have to admit my favourite speakers were Lana, Bonnie & Erin of Three Bird Renovations and Tash Sefton + Elle Ferguson of TheyAllHateUS .


I took away some key points from these incredible Business Chicks:

  • Morning and afternoon delight _ Elle and Tash would send each other a morning and afternoon inspiration.
  • Hobby becoming a job – for these women, their hobby and passion became a job because they put the hard work in.
  • Work on the side in your –Elle and Tash started TheyAllHateUs in their lunch breaks.
  • Quality over quantity when it comes to staff working for you – Ensure they understand you and your vision. You don’t need a lot of people but you do need key people.
  • Small team but pay well – you pay for what you get.
  • Friendship 1st, Business 2nd
  • The positive aspect of Instastory is you can use it as a different avenue for example you could share more personal aspects or snippets on there knowing it won’t stay as a permanent feature on your Instagram account.
  • Although Elle highlighted that there is a currency in the number of ‘followers’, it shouldn’t be the reason for or against what you are doing. Remain authentic and while some people get excited about ‘free stuff’ (possibly based on followers), “free clothes simply don’t pay the rent”.
  • How do you deal with negativity? Elle was quick to respond. She is currently being trolled on Instagram even to the extent of inviting the troll to speak up at the event. Tash stepped in jokingly making the comment “we are called TheyAllHateUs for a reason. Not everyone like everyone and that is ok. Honesty is best”.
  • Mutual respect – In a team of two or three, look for strength in one another. Bonnie admitted that she is not very organised but has strength in her styling. And that is okay! Lana and Erin make up for that. Lana may not have the eye for styling but has a sharp business mind. These women do not compete; they compliment one another.

Business Chicks is Australia’s largest and most influential community for women. Business Chicks is about helping all women to play a bigger game. Whether you’re running your own show, surrounded by others in an office, or just missing a sense of connection and support, Business Chicks is all about giving you the tools you need to propel yourself and your businesses forward.

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